There are many Conception and Pregnancy books in the market.

I am 10 weeks pregnant and this is my first time. I have just turned 41.

I am an individual who believes that we all have an internal reservoir of knowledge that can guide us throughout every single stage of our lives, if we are in tune with ourselves, if we are open to hear our own little inner voice.

I decided before having even conceived that I would follow this guidance as a primary directive. This doesn’t mean that I would discard other people’s guidance and advice, but it does mean that I ultimately know better than anyone else what best works for myself, my body, my life. And so I also honour that others also know what best works for themselves, their bodies, their lives.

Before I conceived I decided that I would have telepathic conversations with my unborn baby. I understood that even at the early stage when the baby is still of a bundle of cells, the soul of this baby would already be fully grown and, indeed, more advanced than myself. I believe that our children are our spiritual seniors (spiritually advanced beings) and they come in order to take civilization and society one step further. In this sense, parents may be physically senior but spiritually junior. And the reason is because otherwise… the world would not grow forwards! I also decided early on that I would check out a couple of books throughout the pregnancy but I would not be desperate to take in every piece of information that is out in the market. I would not compare my pregnancy and myself to other pregnant women, the same as I would not compare the development of my baby to other babies!

And the reason is… we are all different and comparisons and judgments are based on fear: yes, fear that we won’t be the best we can be; fear that we won’t be adequate; fear that we may do something wrong and … can we live with ourselves? Can we be forgiven by our friends and families? Fear of fitting in… and the list goes on… and all the time we transform a truly miraculous and enjoyable time into a … race! A time of anxiety.

I am not talking out of arrogance here. I am talking out of honouring my intuition, my spiritual guidance, my inner knowledge. And the purpose of my work is to encourage and empower other women, other men, other parents, to dare to trust themselves and take small steps if necessary (at the beginning) in order to tense the muscle of living our own lives as we feel fit.

Because… there is no right and wrong. Only lessons. And being humbled by our so called mistakes is truly not the worse that can happen!

After checking out what is safe and unsafe and after having asked our doctor for the necessary guidance and advice, allow your baby to tell you, from the early stages, what he or she needs.

I always talk about giving people what they need in order to reinforce who they are and help them strengthen their not-so-well-developed areas of personality, but I don’t talk about giving people what they want, since I believe that this truly can take them out of the straight path; it can make them weak, it can lead them astray. I feel this is immediate gratification but we really need to look at the longer term – because we are here for the long run!

And so my little Itsaso had a mind of her own from the moment of birth (indeed, I wanted to call her Ohiana, in my native Basque language, but she said mum, I am not “Forest” – I am “Sea”!). Instructions soon followed: she wanted Lavander paint in her room (I wanted pink!).

I checked with my friend Lette – she is not just a mother of four and truly knowledgeable of nutrition, but she is also very well versed in the spiritual realm. We regularly get together to make links on the parallel realities not seen by the physical eye, yet not any less relevant to our practical lives! She soon understood the reason for Lavander: Lavare, in Latin, means to clean, to wash. And if she is Sea… then it is perfectly reasonable!

Not only Itsaso would talk to me as soon as I would make a gap in between my many thoughts (I am normally busy reading, meditating, thinking or writing… so she needs to pick her occasion carefully!) but I realised that she is a chatter box right from the beginning! She will not only talk to me when I have a clear mind, but she will talk to anyone who is near me or connected to me, when I can’t hear her!

So there we were by the sea. I had my feet in the water (she told me that healing myself by putting my feet in the water was very grounding and that it would help her also) and deep in self-healing and meditation, I realised her dad was busy collecting shells! See? I said to him: Now you are getting on with the program! This is what I need you to do: hear her needs when I am busy because I can’t hear everything she says! He seemed quite pleased that he was participating as well. And since I didn’t tell him to collect shells, he realised that maybe what I say about hearing my unborn baby was not so much madness after all!

I stayed over at Lette’s for a few days at a stage when we were doing quite intense healing. One morning I got up early. Our friend JP (also a healer) was there. The three of us were sitting in a triangle (we didn’t plan this!) and suddenly Itsaso must have thought it is now or never! And I think that she took this opportunity to fill our minds with her requests for… 5 hours! It was intense!

And so Lette asked me, out of the blue: Tell me, Ana, how are you planning to decorate the baby’s room? I hadn’t really thought of it because I am learning as I go along and there were still 7 months to go; we are right in the middle of doing up our flat, so the baby’s room would be last.

I said: Ah! OK. There is a border.

Lette said: Fantastic! Then we can put flowers…

Yuk! I said – Totally no flowers!

I said: Angels!

Yuk! Itsaso said – Totally no Angels!

Then I realised that from the moment I conceived, I had been signing birthday and thank you cards on her behalf with a little drawing of a paw … Why do I do this? I asked Lette and JP… and suddenly it popped in my mind! SHE WANTS CATS!

And I cried… I cried with the realisation of the truth… and we all understood!

Because cats raise vibration. And she is a highly sensitive being… so she wants healing, lavender, cats.

JP had a headache at the time so I offered to do some Reiki on him. He accepted. He sat in front of me, at my feet, while I was sitting on the sofa.

Straight away I could sense a strong interaction between the both of them! I said to him: She is talking to you, isn’t she!

He said: Yes; she wants you to sit with her when you write and put feathers in her room. They will help you with your creativity. But you must have some crystals around you in order to counteract the effect of your computer.

She also wants Dolphin music and sea natural sounds… they will help her with the energy.

She wants a water feature and some pastel colours above her head so when she wakes up she doesn’t see the whiteness of the ceiling… too harsh for her sensitive eyes.

She also wants a rainbow – but not one painted on the wall but the kind that you get when light shines on a crystal ball and reflects all the colours of the rainbow dancing in the room!

I was so happy. It all made so much sense. I realised that I don’t have to impose my idea of what the little being will be once she is born, because she is already her own person and if I listen, she will make it very easy for me to guide her during the pregnancy and during childhood!

So far, my doctors and friends can tell you, I have had a dream pregnancy: no sickness, no emotional ups and downs, no pains of any sort… I am drawn to eat something and I ask no questions: I just eat it. I am drawn to a specific activity and I ask no questions: I just do it. It is truly a harmonious pregnancy. Already she is guiding me towards the way she wants to be born! And so we make such a good fit! If I had to describe how I feel, I would say that I am myself, but enhanced!

A couple of days afterwards, Lette and me went to the market searching for crystals. Suddenly, I felt attracted by a little shop. This shop had been open for just two weeks!

While I envisaged having a Walt Disney kind of bedroom for Itsaso with the nice fleece blankets that they sell in any of the shopping molls, I suddenly felt pulled into picking up this lovely pure-cotton, hand-made blanket and I knew that it was Itsaso’s blanket! Suddenly my eyes opened wide. And I don’t mean my physical eyes!

The whole idea of the baby’s needs and requirements changed in one split second… because she told me that she wanted natural materials and no synthetic bright coloured items! And she wanted a cot made out of wood, not plastic!

I came out of the shop totally changed, humbled and honoured. I thought that the world of the future will be a much better world if we respect and guide our children, rather than impose our views and old dreams on them. If we allow them the space to became who they came here to be, maybe then there is hope.

The hope that the whole world is searching for.

Let’s let our children guide us to a future of peace and harmony.

Let’s hear them talk.